I used to hate the concept of a new year’s resolution, but now I think they can help people take action.
I realized that new year’s resolutions are really just like any other goals or objectives, they just happen to be spurred by the coming of a new year.
Some like to look at it as a new beginning, a way to get a fresh start.
If this helps, fine.
Whatever gets people up off their asses is good in my book.
Do you want to change?
There was an interesting survey on NYR’s that really blew me away.
It looked at 3,000 people, and showed that 88% failed to reach their new year’s resolutions after one year.
Yes, this means only 12% achieved their resolutions! (Wiseman, 2007)
That’s damn near 9 out of 10 people failing to get the results they desire.
I don’t want this to be you.
I want you to f*cking smash your resolutions (and any other goals you may have).
I want you to stick with your resolutions for the long term and see MASSIVE results.
Kill the word want, and NEED the changes you want to see.
So you want to make some changes for the better, eh? Well want isn’t the right word.
Just like any other goal, if you just want it, you won’t get it.
Want opens the door for excuses. Want is passive.
Want connotes “I want this, I want that, but if I don’t get it, oh well. If it’s too hard to get, ah screw it.”
What are you going to get with that attitude?
Whatever life is kind enough to hand you!
This is why most resolutions don’t even make it to February!
You really have to NEED it to get it.
I’ll paraphrase the Stones here, because they said it best:
If you try, you’ll find that you get what you NEED!
OBSESS over reaching the outcome you want.
I’ve talked about obsession before, and that’s because it’s important!
I know the only positive changes I’ve ever seen have come from an obsession.
I’ve never seen any positive changes in my life when I “went with the flow” or did things with one foot in and foot foot out.
As a matter of fact, a lukewarm response will most likely get you the opposite of what you need!
What to do, then?
- Hone your attention on only a couple of things (don’t spread yourself too thin)
- Build up the obsession needed to get where you want to be
- Get better every day
- Build upon past successes
- Don’t stop until you’re on the other side!
Have a very good reason to make the changes you need (the changes must be SUPER important to you)
Only those things that you have a very good reason to do, will get done.
It’s gotta be big and important, it must be tied to emotion, and it must hit you hard and make you feel something.
Like the point above, you cannot be lukewarm about this.
It’s gotta burn hot, baby!
What’s your reason?
Does it invoke emotion? Does it get you all fired up? Does it keep you up at night? Do you shed tears over it?
If it does any of these things, good!
Move on and…
Be prepared to make these resolutions a big part of your life, for a very long time.
Tony Robbins says you the first step is taking massive action, true that, Tony!
I’ll also say that you need to make your goals a massive part of your life, for massive periods of time!
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It’s day in, day out, grind it out for years.
You’re going to question yourself at times if it’s even worth it, if it will even work.
There will be times when you have no enthusiasm and no motivation to keep going.
This is when most people quit.
It’s also when you’re about to break through.
This is why…
a. these changes must be more important to you than almost anything else.
b. you feel the need to hit these goals above all else.
Kick out negativity (especially negative thoughts and people)!
Negative thoughts WILL creep in.
They’ll ask you what you’re even doing this for.
They’ll tell you it can’t be done.
They’ll say you can quit, and that you tried your best.
“COME ON! Just quit already! Let’s sit on the couch and watch reruns!”
Kick these bastards to the curb!
Don’t even entertain negative thoughts.
Whenever something negative creeps in, ZAP it and turn it into a positive thought.
This is the same for negative people.
They won’t and don’t want you to change.
They’ll want the “old” Billy back.
They’ll say you’re changing, man.
Kick them out too. Of course you’re changing, growing, and becoming better. If you don’t the world will pass you by and you’ll end up a loser.
Be prepared to give up some things that won’t help you hit your resolutions.
Buddhist monks renounce all their earthly possessions and any desire for pleasure in order to achieve enlightenment.
They go all in.
Now, you don’t have to go so extreme, but you do have to give up some things if you want to get serious about your goals.
The truth is, you only have so much time, and there is not enough time for everything.
If you want to read more, you have to watch less TV.
If you want to lose fat, you have to eat less and get to the gym.
If you want to quit smoking or drinking, you need to ditch social interactions that make it easy for you to light up or sip a brewski.
Make Your New Year’s Resolutions SMART-ly
A lot of people fail at their new year’s resolutions because they aren’t SMART:
Specific – Meaning you need to know EXACTLY what it is you’re trying to achieve.
Measurable – Can it be measured? How?
Attainable – Can you achieve the outcome you desire in the time frame you’ve given yourself?
Realistic – Can it actually even be done?
Time-bound – When is the end-point?
Think it out well enough so that your resolution or goal hits each one of these five points.
Have a support network.
Lastly but not leastly, have a support network to hold you accountable.
You don’t have to go it alone.
Get some positive people on your side to push you.
It’ll be a whole hell of a lot easier if you have people to confide in, to talk to, when things get rough and you feel you can’t go on.
Bonus: Drop a Challenge
Some people respond very well to challenges.
People take things more seriously when something tangible is on the line, and rightly so.
Put up something (money, time, etc.) with friends, family, or a web service such as Stickk, and you’ll have a reason not to fail!
You can make it as interesting as you want, but the higher the stakes, usually the better the results (please don’t do anything stupid, though!)
Let’s Wrap This Up
Too many people take on new year’s resolutions, only to fail.
Don’t be one of the 88%!
Get serious about your new year’s resolutions and your goals, and smash them!
Here’s to starting the new year off with a BANG,