“If you don’t have the mental capacity to be that obsessed with what you’re trying to get, then motherf*cker you ain’t never gonna have it.”
– CT Fletcher
Motivation is why you do something once. You may get motivated to clean the house. Or eat a salad. Or go for a run.
Obsession is why you change your life. It’s what differentiates experts from novices, the elite from the average, and the leaders from the followers.
How many times have you been “motivated” for a day? For a week? For a month?
This motivation usually wanes after a while. You lose sight of why you started. You lose track of progress. Goals fade away.
Obsession doesn’t fade easily. Obsession is active. Obsession burns in you.
Obsession means you have to do that particular something.
You must do it.
what you are obsessed about is part of the fabric of your being. It is part of your identity. It is who you are.
You can usually tell what someone is obsessed with if you examine what they do, who they are, and their lifestyle.
Dorian Yates (former Mr. Olympia), was completely and utterly obsessed with being the best bodybuilder in the world. You can take one look at how his physique looked (Google it) and see what he was obsessed with.
Tony Robbins (motivational speaker), is obsessed with motivating and changing people’s lives. You can take one look at his body of work, go to a seminar, or read one of his books and see where his obsessions lie.
Steve Jobs was obsessed with creating the best electronic devices in the world. Mark Zuckerberg is obsessed with connecting people to each other through Facebook (and other ventures). Warren Buffett is obsessed with investing. Tom Brady is obsessed with throwing a football accurately while avoiding being decapitated.
All of these men are obsessed.
All of these men are the very best at what they do.
Obsession comes with needing.
What do you need?
You’re motivated by something you want.
You’re obsessed with something you need.
Do you want to lose fat?
Or do you need it so badly that you are willing to obsess until you are at your goal weight?
A good way to figure out what you need to obsess about is what causes you pain.
What causes you the most pain?
Is it being overweight? Obsess about losing fat.
Is it having no discipline? Obsess about a routine, a schedule, deadlines, and getting things done.
Is it being weak? Obsess about getting in the weight room and getting stronger.
Is it having no money? Obsess about ways to create income streams.
Don’t be scared to be obsessed.
I would be more scared of being obsessed with nothing.
What am I obsessed with?
I’m obsessed with lifting weights, fitness, training, and diet. Why? because I was always a scrawny weakling growing up, but still out of shape and eating shit food, and there’s my pain.
I’m obsessed with helping others reach the truth, about fitness, and about life. Why? Because I have been mislead myself and don’t want others to have to wander aimlessly like I did, pain point.
I’m obsessed with bettering myself, everyday. Because if you’re you’re not bettering yourself in some way everyday, you’re going backwards. I’ve seen it, We’ve all seen it or done it. There are plenty of examples, and there is plenty of pain.
Recognize your pain points. Obsess about trying to fix them.
More reading on obsession:
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